When Should I Tell My Child He’s Adopted?
The fact that a child is adopted should never be hidden. I believe the child should hear the word adoption even as a baby. You don’t want to overdo it, but mention it when it’s natural.
Telling a good friend in front of them is okay, because it is the truth. Make it seem natural. Even when my son was a baby, I would tell him, “I’m glad we adopted you.”
Frame it as a good thing. Don’t give the child the impression that there is something wrong with adoption, or that they should be embarrassed about it.
Our adoption was an open adoption and most years we would get together with Kelly’s family sometime around my son’s birthday. Even when he was very young, I would explain to him that he came out of Kelly’s tummy and that he was blessed because he had two families that loved him.
This approach prevents the child from enduring unnecessary trauma when they find out the truth.
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