As Jesus approached Jericho, a blind man was sitting by the roadside begging. When he heard the crowd going by, he asked what was happening. They told him, “Jesus of Nazareth is passing by.” He called out, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” Those who led the way rebuked him and told him to be quiet, but he shouted all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!” Jesus stopped and ordered the man to be brought to him. When he came near, Jesus asked him, “What do you want me to do for you?” “Lord, I want to see,” he replied. Jesus said to him, “Receive your sight; your faith has healed you.” Immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus, praising God. When all the people saw it, they also praised God.
I know that there seems to be some debate on IVF and God.
Here is where I stand on this issue, I believe that if God wants a person to have a baby and if the IVF works and a baby is carried and delivered it’s a blessing to be celebrated. I understand that as a Christian we believe that life begins at conception and when there are several eggs fertilized and kept frozen, it becomes a debate on whether or not it’s what God intended.
I know for me, that I wouldn’t have a niece and a nephew today if it wasn’t for IVF. God has the power to end or create life and with the chances of actual success in IVF being 25%, I still believe God decides.
This may raise a few eyebrows and I get it. I’m not going to conform to something I don’t believe though.
Are You Trusting God?
Infertility often challenges our faith and trust in God. We can wonder if God has forgotten us, and think we’ve been overlooked. I can assure you it is not the case.
The Lord may be planning something special for your family. Scripture has more than one instance where infertility played into God’s purposes. Keep your faith strong and trust Him.
He knows what He’s doing. Learn the lesson of trusting God, and it will be a goldmine throughout the rest of your life.
A Diamond in the Rough,
When you are considering adoption, ask yourself what you are hoping to gain. Are you ready to love someone as your own flesh and blood? Are you prepared to face family members that don’t feel the same way as you? Are you willing to accept that not all children are the same and there is no way to predict if a child will have special needs or not?
If you answered yes to these questions, then I truly pray that God opens the door to you for adoption. Take it from me, if you can’t say yes to some of these questions please pray about it. As a child that was not treated the same as her parent’s biological children, I beg you to reconsider choosing adoption.
Many are saying of me, “God will not deliver him.” “Selah” But you are a shield around me, O LORD; you bestow glory on me and lift up my head. To the LORD I cry aloud, and he answers me from his holy hill. “Selah” I lie down and sleep; I wake again, because the LORD sustains me. I will not fear the tens of thousands drawn up against me on every side.
I know the disappointment of taking pregnancy test after pregnancy test all with a negative result. I think as women we take it as something we have done wrong. I don’t know why some women get pregnant at the drop of a hat and others struggle for years.
My sister- in law is the very definition of Fertile Myrtle, she and my brother only had to think about trying for a child and she got pregnant with all three pregnancies the first try.
For me I tried and tried and tried, and nothing. I went to doctor after doctor, and then they put me on Clomid and nothing. I did gain weight though. Finally when I was at my lowest point, I asked God why? The answer didn’t come right away, but what I did see is that I was making getting pregnant my God, and when I repented and allowed myself to ask God for help, I did finally get pregnant.
I think the biggest lesson I learned was that if we let other things become greater than God, failure is what we will get. God doesn’t like to share us and I’m grateful for that. If you are struggling with infertility, ask God, He will show you in His timing.
A Dusty Diamond,
Honesty is the Key to a Good Adoption Experience
I have heard of, and met people who are reluctant to tell their adopted child that they are adopted. My advice is to not go down that road.
Don’t fall into the temptation of pretending that you gave birth to the child. Eventually the child will find out, and when they do, it will damage their relationship with you.
I’m not saying that you must reveal to everyone that your child is adopted, but when it is in the best interest of the child, don’t be afraid to tell.
I am a short lady. My son has always been tall for his age. I would have mere acquaintances question why that was. They were being nosey and there was no reason for me to give them that information.
I would smile and say, “His father is much taller than I am.” This was the truth, but usually would shut the conversation down. Ask the Lord to give you wisdom on these matters, and He will.
A Diamond in the Rough,
Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.
I Corinthians 16:13
Because I’m in a unique position of having been adopted and given a child up for adoption, I think I can speak to those of you considering adoption as a way to build your family or those of you considering an adoption plan.
The first thing I say to both of you is be realistic in what you are trying to accomplish. Neither is an easy option, though both can be rewarding in their own ways. Research adoption agencies, and ask lots of questions. If you don’t like something ask them about it, and if their answers don’t work with you, look at others.
Adoption can be a very rewarding experience or not so much. Pray and ask God for guidance.
A dusty diamond,
The Lesson of Perseverance
Often when we are going through a trial, such as infertility, we don’t always recognize the lessons we are learning along the way.
One lesson I learned walking through my trail was perseverance. When we are called upon to persevere, we usually want to resist. We want things to be easy. We tend to want gratification, now!
In this day and age, at least in the U.S., most everything is obtained almost instantly. We need information, we go to the internet and we have it. We want to watch a specific movie we pull up Netflix or go rent it. If we need something, most of us can hop in the car and go buy it.
Our instant society has us programmed to be impatient. A walk through infertility is an exercise in working hard and not giving up. It teaches us a life skill that will help us all the rest of our lives. Kids don’t usually come with easy fixes.
A Diamond in the Rough,